The Good Men Project is a community of 21st century thought leaders around the issue of men’s roles in modern life. It is a comprehensive magazine site with rich thought-provoking content. I modify some of my articles to speak directly to the Good Men Project audience. They post my articles in the Marriage section of the site. […]
What do kids and divorce negotiations have to do with one another? A lot! (for parents). Thinking about your kids could be the best decision you’ll make in your divorce negotiation. Your Kids’ Shoes I recently wrapped up a mediation that was a model child-centered divorce. The parents weren’t buddies. They didn’t spend a lot […]
I had a blast recently being interviewed by divorce attorney Cynthia Auckly-Barbuto of the Law Firm of Grossman & Associates (now Sassoon Cymrot Law) in Newton, MA. Cynthia hosted an edition of their Inside Divorce Podcast. We spent a half hour answering questions like “What is a mediator?” and “How can mediation help parents in high conflict situations divorce?” […]
I had the great fortune to be interviewed by Attorney Allen Margulis of the Total Counselor Show on WCRN on July 31st about how to divorce in Massachusetts. During the hour-long interview we discussed the different ways to get divorced in Massachusetts, with a particularly emphasis on divorce mediation. I shared one of my favorite […]
People tell me “I want to refer someone to you but they are really high conflict so there’s no way mediation could work for them.” Then, I take a deep breathe, resist the urge to say something like “that doesn’t make sense!” and ask them to tell me about the situation. FICTION: Mediators only works […]
I often find inspiration for posts from my family mediation services. But the reality is that communication lessons are present everyday if we pay attention. A friend of mine was venting to me recently about his mother-in-law. He is a videographer. Exceptionally talented, award-winning, and creative. He has made a great career creating marketing materials […]
I am a mediator and I recently lost one of the loves of my life. A best friend. A source of unconditional support. His name was Brady. My dog, Brady. I provide family mediation, and yes, I am one of those pet-owners. You know the kind. The ones who consider their pet a member of the […]
I am always trying to find a unique twist for my posts. Something that sets my ideas apart. Thinking about this post, common expressions I hear from parents in mediation kept running through my mind. Statements like: He’s so demanding. She’s so controlling. He’s rude. She’s bossy. Hmmm…I wonder what mind-blowing advice I could provide […]
Common separation agreement ideas: “We’ll just split things down the middle. That’s just the fair thing to do.” “We just want to be fair so we’ll add it all up and split it 50/50.” These are reasonable ideas. But does that mean they are “fair?” What Do You Mean? Of Course it Does! Does fairness […]
Do you ever feel like banging your head against the wall when dealing with rigid and inflexible people? Folks who get stuck in only one way of thinking? Who have trouble seeing the forest through the trees? Ever find yourself in a conversation that seems to be going nowhere because the other person doesn’t seem […]